Beverlye H.

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In 2002, I was diagnosed with my second cancer after having some pain in my abdomen. I protested about getting other tests, thinking that I was in good shape and healthy. But the doctor insisted. After a biopsy, they discovered I had eight large tumors in my abdomen. The doctor told my family it was urgent to start treatment immediately. The treatment was four kinds of chemo into the site, three weeks at a time, twenty-four hours a day in the hospital. I would get very ill, go all the way down, and when I came back up, they wanted to resection my stomach. This, too, was a long process, and when I recovered from that, I would go back in for the same treatment of chemo. I had gone through this same scenario many times, as I had lost my mother, my grandmother, and my two sisters to cancer. Luckily, I said, “I need another opinion.” My team, which was my two grown children, their spouses, and my husband, started looking around for other doctors we could go to. My passion is now to give other cancer patients inspiration and learn some things from my experience. Getting more than one opinion is certainly one of the lessons I share. I am very lucky and count my blessings everyday. I have written two books, one called I Can Do This, and the second, written with my granddaughter Tessa Hamermesh, explaining cancer to children called Nana, What’s Cancer? I also speak all over the country trying to make others realize that when they get that diagnosis is not the time to lie down, but the time to fight back.
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Balance and Well Being

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Breast Cancer (Female) - Motivation & Support

The Hill

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Colorectal Cancer (CRC) - Communicating To Family And Friends

"Tell Them What You Want"

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Insomnia - Lifestyle Changes

It's Possible!

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Lynch Syndrome - Communicating To Family And Friends

"Tell Them What You Want"

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Obesity - Diet & Nutrition

Good Riddance Holidays

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Soft Tissue Sarcoma - Motivation & Support

Stage IV - Living With Cancer

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Soft Tissue Sarcoma - Living And Working With My Condition

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Misc. Stories - Living And Working With My Condition

The Last Piece of the Puzzle

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Misc. Stories - Motivation & Support

A Life Filled With Music

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Ageless Amazing Women - Phyllis Berkett

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Be Careful What You Wish For...

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Being In The Moment

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Big Headline: Women Are Just Getting Started

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Busy, Grateful, Fun 10 Days

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Class of 2016!

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Dream It, See It, Do It

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Dreams Come True

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Firsts

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Friends

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Hiking for the Soul

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Holiday Thoughts

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Holidays

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Hope For The Future and The Past

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Sun Valley

Wellness Festival where speakers come from all over the country (including lucky me) to give their talks and workshops.

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Sundays

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The Perfect Moment

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Misc. Stories - Lifestyle Changes

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Misc. Stories - Exercise & Fitness

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Misc. Stories - 360Interviews

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Misc. Stories - Communicating To Family And Friends

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